Emotional Regulation & Big Feelings.
Bespoke coaching helping children understand strong feelings, find calm, and respond more steadily, built around your child.
Big feelings understood, not managed away.
- London Teacher of the Year Award 2021
- BSc Psychology
- Qualified Teacher Status
- Assistant Psychologist & Psychological Research Experience
- In person across North London and online worldwide
Emotional Regulation & Big Feelings.
Emotional regulation coaching for children offers a warm, developmental space for big feelings and emotional understanding. When overwhelm takes over, Ruby and your child explore what is happening and build practical strategies that fit the individual child. Sessions in North London and online support self-understanding and steadier ways to respond, without treating feelings as something to be fixed.
Built around your child, not a fixed package.
Every programme is built around the individual child. Ruby and your child shape the focus, the pace and the goals, so the support fits your child, not the other way around.
Programmes run from a minimum of four sessions, and continue for as long as your child needs. Some children need a short, focused block; others benefit from longer, ongoing support. Ruby and the family find the right length together.
How it works
- 01It starts with a free discovery call, where Ruby talks through what is going on for your child and what you are hoping for.
- 02From there, Ruby builds a programme around your child's goals, strengths and needs.
- 03Programmes begin with a minimum of four sessions and continue for as long as they are helpful, with regular reviews along the way.
Who it's for
- Children who feel things very strongly and very quickly
- Children who find frustration or disappointment hard to move past
- Children who get overwhelmed by busy or noisy days
- Children who hold it together at school and let go at home
- Children who want words for what they are feeling
- Children building calm before a demanding term or change
How Ruby approaches it
- Understanding when the big moments happen, and what sits underneath them
- Building emotional vocabulary, so feelings can be named rather than acted out
- Practical, personal strategies for finding calm in the moment
- Noticing early signs, so a wave can be met before it breaks
- Rebuilding after a hard moment, without shame
- Skills your child can use on their own, at school and at home
What Ruby and your child work towards
Every child is different, but this is the kind of growth Ruby and your child work towards together.
What emotional regulation coaching involves
Emotional regulation is the ability to notice a feeling, understand it, and respond to it in a way that works for you. For many children, the difficulty is not the feeling itself but how quickly and how strongly it arrives, and how little time there seems to be between the feeling and the reaction. Coaching helps a child recognise the early signs of frustration, worry or overwhelm, find words for what is happening, and build strategies for finding calm that genuinely suit them.
Ruby and your child also spend time on what happens afterwards, so a hard moment can be repaired without shame. Feelings are not treated as a problem to remove. The aim is that your child understands themselves better and has more choice about how they respond. Coaching is not therapy or clinical treatment, and where a child needs that kind of support Ruby will say so.
This is part of Ruby’s approach and her way of working with every child. Read more about the approach.
Qualified teacher, psychology graduate, and award-winning specialist educator.
Ruby Cole is a qualified teacher with Qualified Teacher Status and a BSc Psychology (Hons), and winner of the London Teacher of the Year Award 2021. With 10+ years working with children and young people across the UK and internationally, she supports both how a child learns and how a child feels.
Qualified teaching background
Classroom and specialist experience across London schools brings clear knowledge of progression, assessment, school expectations, and age-appropriate teaching.
Psychology and child development
A background in psychology supports careful attention to motivation, confidence, emotional regulation, and how each child feels safest and most ready to learn.
Additional needs and neurodiversity
Sessions are adapted for neurodivergent learners and children with additional needs, without lowering expectations or making a child feel singled out.
Ruby … gave him the tools to understand his emotions, consider different perspectives and choose how he wanted to respond.
Frequently asked questions
Is this therapy or counselling?
No. This is educational, psychology-informed coaching. It is not therapy or counselling, and it is not a substitute for clinical support.
What ages is this suitable for?
Programmes are designed for children and young people aged 7 to 18, with sessions adapted to the child's age, confidence, and context.
Is this therapy for my child's emotions?
No. This is coaching that builds emotional skills and understanding. It is not therapy, treatment or assessment for a mental health condition. If Ruby believes a child would benefit from clinical support, she will always say so.
What happens on the discovery call?
The free discovery call is a chance for Ruby to understand what is going on for your child, answer your questions, and decide together whether coaching feels like a good fit.
How many sessions will my child need?
Programmes begin with a minimum of four sessions and continue for as long as your child needs. Some children need a short, focused block, while others benefit from longer support. Ruby and the family review together as sessions progress.
Every programme is delivered personally by Ruby Cole, a qualified teacher combining academic rigour with an evidence-based understanding of how children learn and grow. Ruby is winner of the London Teacher of the Year Award 2021, BSc Psychology (Hons), Qualified Teacher Status (QTS), with ten-plus years working with children nationally and internationally, including specialist 1:1 tutoring, Assistant Psychologist experience, and research with UCL and the Anna Freud Centre.
Every programme is built around the same principle: a child who feels understood is a child who can achieve more.
What this is
Education-led, psychology-informed coaching that builds emotional skills, vocabulary and self-understanding, tailored to your child.
What this is not
This is not therapy, counselling, or clinical treatment, and it is not a substitute for clinical support. If Ruby believes a child would benefit from clinical support, she will always say so.
Talk it through with Ruby.
A free 15-minute discovery call, no pressure and no obligation.