Emotional Regulation & Big Feelings.
Bespoke coaching helping children understand strong feelings, find calm, and respond more steadily, built around your child.
Big feelings understood, not managed away.
- London Teacher of the Year Award 2021
- BSc Psychology and Qualified Teacher Status
- In person across North London and online worldwide
What this is
Education-led, psychology-informed coaching that builds emotional skills, vocabulary and self-understanding, tailored to your child.
What this is not
This is not therapy, counselling, or clinical treatment, and it is not a substitute for clinical support. If I believe a child would benefit from clinical support, I will always say so.
Emotional Regulation & Big Feelings.
Some children feel things very strongly. Frustration arrives fast, disappointment lands hard, and overwhelm can take over a whole afternoon. This is developmental coaching that helps a child understand what is happening for them, put words to it, and build practical ways to steady themselves. I start by understanding when and why the big moments happen, then build skills and self-understanding from your child's own strengths, at their pace.
Built around your child, not a fixed package.
Every programme is built around the individual child. Together we shape the focus, the pace and the goals, so the support fits your child, not the other way around.
Programmes run from a minimum of four sessions, and continue for as long as your child needs. Some children need a short, focused block; others benefit from longer, ongoing support. We find the right length together.
How it works
- 01It starts with a free discovery call, where we talk through what is going on for your child and what you are hoping for.
- 02From there, I build a programme around your child's goals, strengths and needs.
- 03We begin with a minimum of four sessions, and continue for as long as it is helpful, reviewing together as we go.
Who it's for
- Children who feel things very strongly and very quickly
- Children who find frustration or disappointment hard to move past
- Children who get overwhelmed by busy or noisy days
- Children who hold it together at school and let go at home
- Children who want words for what they are feeling
- Children building calm before a demanding term or change
How I approach it
- Understanding when the big moments happen, and what sits underneath them
- Building emotional vocabulary, so feelings can be named rather than acted out
- Practical, personal strategies for finding calm in the moment
- Noticing early signs, so a wave can be met before it breaks
- Rebuilding after a hard moment, without shame
- Skills your child can use on their own, at school and at home
How this helps your child
Every child is different, but this is the kind of growth we work towards together.
This is part of my approach, my way of working with every child. Read more about the approach.
Qualified teacher, psychology graduate, and award-winning specialist educator.
Ruby Cole is a qualified teacher with Qualified Teacher Status and a BSc Psychology (Hons), and winner of the London Teacher of the Year Award 2021. With ten years working with children and young people across the UK and internationally, she supports both how a child learns and how a child feels.
Qualified teaching background
Classroom and specialist experience across London schools brings clear knowledge of progression, assessment, school expectations, and age-appropriate teaching.
Psychology and child development
A background in psychology supports careful attention to motivation, confidence, emotional regulation, and how each child feels safest and most ready to learn.
Additional needs and neurodiversity
Sessions are adapted for neurodivergent learners and children with additional needs, without lowering expectations or making a child feel singled out.
Frequently asked questions
Is this therapy or counselling?
No. This is educational, psychology-informed coaching. It is not therapy or counselling, and it is not a substitute for clinical support.
What ages is this suitable for?
Programmes are designed for children and young people aged 7 to 18, with sessions adapted to the child's age, confidence, and context.
Is this therapy for my child's emotions?
No. This is coaching that builds emotional skills and understanding. It is not therapy, treatment or assessment for a mental health condition. If I believe a child would benefit from clinical support, I will always say so.
What happens on the discovery call?
The free discovery call is a chance for me to understand what is going on for your child, answer your questions, and decide together whether coaching feels like a good fit.
How many sessions will my child need?
Programmes begin with a minimum of four sessions and continue for as long as your child needs. Some children need a short, focused block, others benefit from longer support. We review together as we go.
Every programme is delivered personally by Ruby Cole, a qualified teacher combining academic rigour with an evidence-based understanding of how children learn and grow. Ruby is winner of the London Teacher of the Year Award 2021, BSc Psychology (Hons), Qualified Teacher Status (QTS), with ten-plus years working with children nationally and internationally, including specialist 1:1 tutoring, Assistant Psychologist experience, and research with UCL and the Anna Freud Centre.
Every programme is built around the same principle: a child who feels understood is a child who can achieve more.
Let's talk it through.
A free 15-minute discovery call, no pressure and no obligation.